1205 words of content including a lighthearted look at Happiness thru a culinary lens. Approximate reading time: 4.82 minutes. And isn't your Happiness worth it?

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1. Feature: A Recipe for Happiness
2. What's YOUR Recipe?
3. About the Coach

How do you feed your soul? Do you grab prepackaged Pleasure from the freezer, microwave it, and eat on the run; or do you cook up your Joy from scratch using organic, locally sourced ingredients? Perhaps you have a saucepan of Gratitude constantly simmering on a back burner? Or do you wait for others to invite you over for Connection and a bit of Calm?

If you follow today's recipe, in whole or part, you will notice your personal stress levels decrease even as you take on more responsibility. Because in the end, it's not really about the workload - it's about the Story you tell yourself that "creates" your stress.

In today's edition I share my favorite recipe for Happiness, gleaned from years of study and practice in the Positive Emotional space. I invite you to try this as written, or to experiment with what is stocked in your own Emotional Cupboard. The recipe for Happiness is neither simple nor easy, but who promised you that it would be?

First, Gather the Core Ingredients

• 1 cup personal Core Values, warmed (see Cook's Notes 1)
• 1 sincere Smile
• 30 days of Gratitude, freshly gathered, best if written down
• 1 steaming mug of Engagement and Meaning
• 4 teaspoons of Balance, one each from work, play, rest & personal growth
• 3 Breaths (best if harvested from your deep belly)
• 1/2 cup each of Openness and Flexibility
• All your Raw Emotional Energy (see below for Preparation Notes)
• 3 oz of Contentment or Satisfaction, grated
• 1 glass of Acceptance, halved

Preparation Notes:

Select a large METAL bowl, and mix in as many of the following as you have in your pantry. IMPORTANT: do not go out and purchase the ingredients for this next step - if you don't own them now, just use what you have.

• Entitlement Thinking, e.g. beliefs like "nothing bad should ever happen to me" or "I should only get the best" (see Cook's Notes 2)
• Suffering, or any brand of Arguing with Reality (store brands will work - really, most varieties are imposed on you by others anyway)
• Negative Self-Talk
• Raging Insecurity - the fresher the better
• Self-Absorption or Self-Pity - if you have both, use it all
• Hate in any form, e.g. liquid, solid, or gaseous (wear gloves while handling)
• Worry, Anxiety, and Fear - these are always sold in a set, so if you have one you likely have all three
• Sadness and Anger (but only the excess. Keep out what you need to protect you for the next week)
• The Urge to Control (note: if you're arguing with this recipe, you have it. Toss it in - there you go. Open up your hand. Let. It. Go!)
• Resentment and any connected Grudges (see Cook's Notes 3)

Mix lightly, being careful not to inhale the vapors. Pour 2 cups of Rum or Brandy over the top to soak the bowl. Immediately set fire to the mixture using a lighter stick or kitchen torch. Once it has burned off, scoop out the Raw Emotional Energy that remains (it will be glowing but cool to the touch - it is the positive essence that resides in all emotions) and continue with the recipe.

Next, Assemble the Core Ingredients:

Spray the inside of a large glass bowl with Patience (see Cooks' Notes 4). Mix the first seven ingredients with a wooden spoon, just until lumpy. Drop Raw Emotional Energy by spoonfuls into the mix and sprinkle with the grated Contentment. Pour half a glass of Acceptance over all. Set aside and let soak.

Focus for five minutes on your Breathing. If you have extra Mindfulness after this, you may add to the mix.

Stir the mixture again, then turn the entire bowl out onto a floured work surface. Knead gently for 10 minutes, remaining Present to what you are doing. Spontaneous humming may occur. If you have pets or small children, you may notice they come and sit quietly during this step. Feel free to give them a taste - it is quite nourishing in a raw state.

Return mixture to the bowl and place on a large cookie sheet with a raised edge. Place in oven warmed to 200°F (93.3°C). Pour the remaining half glass of Acceptance into the pan so the mixture is bathed in it.

Cooking times may vary, depending on the quantity of Patience used. When the Happiness doubles in size, you may remove half the mixture and consume.

Once you've got this starter going, keep it warm and surrounded by Acceptance. You can remove half of your Happiness every day, and it will double again by the next day, as long as you Practice it.

Serving Suggestions:

May be served warm or cold; best when garnished with Positive Self-Regard. For a more dramatic presentation, swirl the plate with a reduction of Bliss, Flow, and a dry red wine. Sprinkle with Permission to Make Mistakes, which reduces indigestion for those who suffer from Perfectionism.

Bon appétit!

Cook's Notes:

1. To warm your Core Values, hold them against your heart for 3-5 minutes.
2. If you do not own any Entitlement Thinking, you can substitute Victim Mindset, Envy, Vanity, or ungrounded Rage.
3. If Resentment or Grudges get mixed with Denial, they may be mislabeled as Negative Self-Talk in your Emotional Cupboard. If so, clear the shelf and scrub with equal parts Self-Love and bleach, which should kill any remaining Germs of Self-Deprecation.
4. Generic brands of Patience will work as well as the more expensive versions - quantity matters more than quality. If you lack Patience, substitute five minutes of Deep Breathing with your feet flat on the floor.

Variations:

Just as every cook has their own version of pasta sauce, recipes for Happiness vary. Even using the same ingredients, your sauce will look and taste different than mine. You may adjust the seasonings and preparation styles or cook using a different Mood.

As long as you honor the Core Ingredients, I promise that you'll love whatever you put on the table. Other ingredients you might consider:

• A pitcher of fresh Summer Rain
• 1 beaker of a Child's Laughter
• Essence of fresh-cut grass or lilacs in bloom
• 1 cup Chocolate, chopped (milk or dark)

Finally, remember that taking time every day to focus on your Happiness will pay huge dividends. You will notice strengthening in your Resilience, Creativity, Confidence, and Engagement muscles, and a reduction in your Stress across all measures.

If you hold a Leadership position, you will benefit the entire team when spend you time in your own kitchen. What you bring to work flows down and around to infect other people - make sure the virus you carry is worth catching.

Remember, Leadership is not about a title: Anyone can be a Leader who practices Emotional Self-Mastery and gives attention to cooking up and nurturing their own Happiness every day.

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Hi, I'm Jim Smith, PCC, The Executive Happiness Coach^®. I work with smart, successful people like you, who sometimes struggle with what it truly means to lead well. I help you dramatically improve your effectiveness as a leader, balance your life, and build a more positive workplace culture.

I have helped thousands of leaders and business owners just like you lead your organizations in new ways AND live a happier, more balanced life. Contact me to learn how you can create a less-stress leadership presence.

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