Happiness@TheSpeedofLife: 14 Reasons You Don't Need Self Improvement
Published: Wed, 10/22/14
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Edition 119: 14 Reasons You Don't Need Self Improvement |
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818 words of content including 14 reasons why you don't need to waste your time with a coach, and a story of EQ in action. Approximate reading time: 3.27 minutes. And isn't your Happiness worth it? This newsletter speaks to Leadership, Happiness, and Coaching in your life and work. If you received this from a friend, SUBSCRIBE now to get your own copy in the future. |
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**RANT WARNING
At first I thought he was joking, given that the core of my message was about positivity and leveraging strengths; when he came up to me afterward to further push his point, I realized he was quite serious. It seemed important to him to win the argument that he self-created. What stopped me from smacking him [ I wrote this post in his honor. Anyone Can Be a Coach
I am a solopreneur - an entrepreneur solely responsible for the development, marketing, sales, and delivery of my services. So in a sense, everything that I do is about managing my brand and supporting my business. I would love for you to hire me as your coach. That point made, I am ALSO a huge supporter of coaching as both a profession and a mindset. Therefore, I subscribe to Thomas Leonard's philosophy that "everyone is a coach." Any time you say to someone, "can you help me with this?" you are essentially giving that person permission to coach you. Through that lens, you might realize that you have been giving coaching and receiving coaching from others your entire life. As you read this article, then, I invite you to read the word "coach" to include both the service of a trained, credentialed professional coach like me as well as the more open interpretation of anyone in your life who in that moment can help you advance. Some people do not need a coach. Here is how to tell if that's you:
If this is you, Congratulations! You are among the less than .1% of the population who would not benefit from working with a coach, a friend, a partner, or anyone else, because you have achieved Perfection. Do This For Yourself
Feel free to print out the above and share with any perfect people in your world so that they can appreciate what a rare gift they are to the rest of us. AND: I invite you to use it as a checklist for yourself as you work on your personal improvement goals for 2015. Have fun with your own coaching journey!
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This article emerged following an in-house talk at which I was heckled by a member of the audience who is a senior manager at the organization (notice that I deliberately did not use the word, Leader). He accused me of "making people feel insecure" in order to fill my coaching practice.
] was the presence of the HR Director, who whispered, "It's easy to believe you're perfect when you have zero self awareness." Given new context, it was all I could do to keep myself from laughing aloud as the manager explained why neither he nor anyone in his division needed any help from a coach. |
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Are you working on behalf of your organization to address leadership development, succession planning, or culture change next year? OR... Are you starting to think about your personal development plan for 2015? Several of my fabulous clients have declared completion on the goals they've been pursuing for the past year or two, and will be wrapping up our work in 1Q 2015. I would be delighted to support you or your organization next. If you're pondering how to leverage coaching to drive improvements in individual or collective leadership next year, let's start a conversation soon. Contact me to schedule a strategy session before the end of the year!
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While leading a full-day workshop on Emotional Intelligence for a healthcare client last week, we had to break for an emergency All-Hands meeting on Ebola readiness. The doctor who led the meeting was manager of no one in the room. It became clear to me that she had two goals. One was to shift the emotional space of hundreds of people to a place where they could hear the FACTS she had to share on this scary disease. The other was to influence the group's thinking and behavior without resorting to mandate.
It was a beautiful demonstration of emotional and social intelligence in a highly charged situation, as well as a great example of the difference between leadership and management. Remember, Leadership is not about a title. Anyone can be a Leader who leverages positive influence to help others achieve their own and the organization's goals.
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The president of the organization sat quietly to the side to show support. It seemed their joint goal was to achieve the desired outcome through conversation and influence, not the exercise of raw power or directive. |
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today?
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The Executive Happiness Coach® is a global provider of Executive Coaching and mentoring services. With clients on six continents, my passion is to help build a Happier world and workplace, one Leader at a time.